Dear Donna! I'm sorry, but I can't help. I did a little poking around and I see your trouble: no real info prior to the 1840 USC. My best guess: Ebenezer N.'s father is Deacon Ebenezer Cole, listed as Head of Household on 1840 census. He and his wife are older: listing as both in their 60s. Ebenezer N would be the male 15-19, and his sister Mary would be the female 10-14. See Google Books: History of Penobscot County, Maine by Williams, Chase and Co. (1882) for how I got Mary's (supposed) name and the elder Ebenezer's title. But you probably know all this already...Otherwise, I'm bust!